Business Development

2 Key Steps to Manage Your Predicaments

a-better-life-654x3791I am a firm believer of goals, plans and actions, I am convinced that if I have not gotten something in life, it is because I have not had the discipline to implement a good plan to get it, I think that is empowering. But I also recognize that sometimes some of our energy gets lost on trying to change something that will not change.

 

We have so many popular phrases or sayings to help us accept things and be complacent, like: “Everything is as it should be”, or “Things happen for a reason”, or “It is God’s will”. I am not discarding any of these; actually I think all of them are pretty valid and true.

 

Where I believe we fail is when we do not have a firm position, of either accepting it or fighting it, switching back and forth between I will do something and there is nothing to do will not help your cause. When we face challenges or difficult situations in our life we need to start handling them with a clear and definite assessment: Can this be changed? Can I do something about it?

 

Instead of asking (and answering those questions) sometimes we start the useless dance between frustration, anxiety and impotence; and worriedness, sadness and low energy action. But the better formula to solve your predicaments is to follow, with firm conviction, these 2 elements: acceptance and action.

 

Can this be changed? If the answer is no then acceptance is your word: “Everything is as it should be”, or “Things happen for a reason”, or “It is God’s will”, stop fighting the situation and accept that it is what it is.  Now you are not off the hook, your acceptance action is to start thinking if you want to stay in that unchangeable situation or what things you can do in the future to be able to answer “Yes, it can be changed”, only then will you be able to stop acceptance and move to the next question.

 

Can I do something about it? If the answer is no, same situation, acceptance is your word and exactly the same process applies, your acceptance action is to start thinking on what are the things that you can change in yourself to be able to do something about it?, only when you can answer “Yes, I can do something about it” you are ready for real action. If it can change and if you can change it, then you now have all of the power, no more acceptance, it is about goal, plan and disciplined execution.

 

Now this is the tricky part, our present moment, our changing reality is never a standing still moment, think about it, the second you are living your present it becomes the past and your next second arrives from the future with your new present, in a blink of an eye.

 

Top performers, leaders, achievers, champions, enlightened fulfilled beings are those that manage to split every second of their precious moments in life in 2 parts: the present moment where they accept everything is as it should be, and the present moment where assessing the situation they take action to think, talk or act with whatever is needed to create better futures.

 

May be the skill to split a second is going to take you some time, but a good beginning is to start splitting your challenges, problems, predicaments in two parts: acceptance and action.

 

“Transforming organizations by energizing your people and getting results.”

Guillermo Mendoza is a business development strategist, speaker and writer. He is passionate about sharing the tools and experiences that he has helping executive leaders and their teams by creating consciousness, developing leadership and getting results.

Available for international engagements in: English, Spanish or Portuguese.

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How to be successful in 2014!

My name is Guillermo Mendoza and I am the speaker for success, I dubbed myself that way because my vision is to help as many people as I can to succeed. As most things success is subjective and it is different for each person, but whether you want success in your career, relationships, job, business, child raising or love, it is always about having that nice feeling of accomplishment and self fulfillment, that grin on your face silently congratulating yourself for how good you are, how success decided to be a part of you.

We all have our success formulas, our definition of what works and what does not, and they are engrained as part of our opinions, thoughts and belief system, and wrongly sometimes we believe that by using our “secret weapon” we will be ahead of others and achieve that success. The irony is that it is precisely the opposite that creates more success. Those who became an open book and share their tricks helping others are seen as the experts, the gurus, the ones that know how to tackle a specific problem and help others with success by coaching, counseling, mentoring, speaking, writing; by being available and making their knowledge available.

I cannot think of a more successful way to start the year than to establish our success goals with the discipline in mind of what it would take to become a success. Any new endeavor will require resources of time, may be money, effort and of course a perseverant attitude to reach success. But for success to happen, a good strategy is required and my proposal for your 2014 strategy is to be available and make your knowledge available.

We all have our tricks, our “secret weapons”, and our proven techniques that for this or that have given us success in the past. Review what you did, what you said, what you thought when you were being successful and share it; help others to succeed and by a weird chain reaction you will become more successful.

I consider it selfish not to share our success formulas and selfishness is not a good way to start the New Year don’t you think? Embrace the art of sharing your knowledge and the even better art of sharing your help, your encouragement, and your love; and believe me life will pay you back by sharing success with you.

“Transforming organizations by energizing your people and getting results.”

Guillermo Mendoza is a business development strategist, speaker and writer. He is passionate about sharing the tools and experiences that he has helping executive leaders and their teams by creating consciousness, developing leadership and getting results.

Available for international engagements in: English, Spanish or Portuguese.

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5 Things To Beat The Fear Of Public Speaking (The Short Version)

7 Things to learn from Teenagers doing Homework

We  have 3 teenagers at home and in spite of having all necessary resources to find answers for their homework they are lazy, or maybe they are smart, they look for the shortest, fastest route to the answer. They ask my wife and if she does not have the answer they ask me, and if I don’t have the answer they ask each other.

And only after those unsuccessful attempts to get help they have to do it by themselves and do some research on the internet or books.

When any of them knows the answer he or she gladly helps, they don’t think “this is mine I won’t give it to you”, there is no competition among them when it comes to doing the homework, and on the contrary they know that if they help today they will be helped tomorrow.

But as adults we have been taught to give answers and results and to be self reliant and independent, on top of that we have to come up with new innovative ideas in our jobs to do things. Therefore the last thing on our minds is ask others, we work in the opposite direction than teenagers, we try with no help at all, we research, we struggle with the problems and challenges on our own, and after several unsuccessful attempts to deal with something as a last resource and sometimes out of frustration we ask for help.

We go to others feeling a little embarrassed and thinking our pride will take a hit because we feel we are saying “I am not as good, you are better, I failed tell me how to do it”.

Our competitive nature does not help, because since we make everything a competition we need to be better than the others; and a symbol of that is we know more and have more experience so we are here to give answers not to ask for help. To do that would be a symbol of weakness.

In business it is common to see something that a company is doing better; it can be their advertising, their website, their sales strategy, their planning, and their operations. And when we find that something that could be useful for our company, something we admire, we first think “we need to research about that, or develop our own system, or find out how they are doing it rather than asking them”.

There are 7 things that we can learn from teenager’s laziness or smartness when doing homework:

  1. Forget about pride or competition and find the fastest route, ask how they are doing that? What tools do they use? What was the process? What would they do different? Who was their vendor? How did they find the answers?
  2. Ask your parents. Your last resource is to work on your own, first try with whom you think knows more than you. Like when they ask us thinking we will remember something we saw in school 30 years ago.
  3. Ask your siblings, those coworkers or companies that seem to be at the same level or lower than you might surprise you with their knowledge or experience in something you want to do.
  4. If your siblings don’t know ask your acquaintances. Go to the internet find what you are looking for and ask for help in the thousands of blogs, forums, twitters and resources available. Some of us like to help, you will find answers.
  5. Take breaks with the TV, basketball board or video games. Well not precisely but you got the point, when we take a break for a while and distract ourselves with something else, our mind keeps working and remains attentive for ideas in whatever we do that can help us. That is how those sudden solution and ideas come. Give your mind time to work.
  6. Don’t be selfish with your knowledge or best practices, nobody can copy or implement things in exactly the same way that you do and they have different people executing it. Even if they are a competitor there are enough customers for everybody.
  7. If I help you today you help me tomorrow. Remember to always offer help and advice, even unsolicited, it is a proven rule that you will receive in the same proportion that you give. I even became curious and am attentive to potential improvements in companies and professionals; and whenever possible I share them out loud, you never know when you can help somebody.

September 28, 2011

Guillermo Mendoza guillermo@impactcoachingsolutions.com +1(832)334-3583

Executive Coach, inspirational international speaker, insightful writer, engaging trainer, empowering individuals and organizations to transform getting the results they want faster and better.

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